In 2007 I had several major loses like the loss of my father to lung cancer and the breakup of my three year relationship.
Though on a more positive note, I gained a Masters degree and loads of life experience.
Yet, somehow looking back it feels like 2007 was a year of loss.
It was during 2008 that I felt ONLY gain. I can hardly look back and see any loses at all. I believe I went from great experience to great experience. I learned a lot and truly felt satisfied.
But what's the point of looking back?
What could I possibly do with the information written above? Sit and smile? Or cry? Or ponder the meaning of gaining and losing?
I often find through coaching that people LOVE looking back, telling stories, and not to mention, they love going over the same scenario over and over again looking for what they may have missed.
In some cases it is important to look back IN ORDER to move forward...but most of the time if we looked through our eyes and not through the back of our head we would gain the momentum to carry us onward.
However, the fact remains clear-we all love to wallow in the past. So if you're going to allow yourself to do so, give it proper time.
Sit down and write. Or share with a friend.
BUT, ask these questions:
What about my past is so interesting in the present?
How can I use my past to send me forward?
What will I do differently as a result of my past experience?
At the end of the day, the simplest way to live is for the present. Enjoy now and get excited for what is to come.
The past is just that…past.
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Wednesday, March 11, 2009
Thursday, April 17, 2008
Power of the ‘Mind-Closet’
Often spring is thought of as the time of year for cleaning out the closet and forward thinking. It’s almost like a new year. We turn the clocks an hour forward in order to have more daylight and begin to realize that we should be taking advantage of life. Yet old habits die hard, don’t they? As we attempt to clear out the old boxes, books and clothes, sometimes what we really need is to clear out our ‘mind-closet’.
The self-limiting beliefs of last year are still not getting us anywhere. In fact, they simply hinder our progress and encumber our development.
If spring is about moving forward, I wonder, why don’t we embrace the leap?
This is when reality sets in and our self-limiting beliefs return to inhibit us. We find ourselves as inactive as before, with a fading memory of how spring had momentarily inspired us.
Take a moment to think and ask yourself these questions.
What beliefs about myself or the world do I carry with me? Then ask yourself, are these beliefs having a positive influence in my life?
If yes, keep them up. In fact, encourage and nourish them.
If no, DITCH them.
For those of you interested in digging deeper into the archives of the mind-closet, I would like to share a story with you.
When I finally thought concepts like the glass ceiling had been broken, a friend shared with me the other day that although she would be making a lot of money in a few years, she would never be able to make as much money as a man in her same position. And I thought to myself, “She could never make as much money? But, girls can do anything!”
If I ever believed myself incapable of doing something, I would not be where I am today.
We all have our doubts, our insecurities and our self-limiting beliefs – so this spring start UNPACKING, and allow yourself to lead a lighter life. Look within yourself and recognize that the voice in your head, the monkey on your shoulder and the gremlin lurking in the shadows are only there because YOU allow them to be.
So what am I asking you to do?
1. Be honest with yourself.
2. Allow yourself to acknowledge and experience those inhibiting thoughts and beliefs.
3. Then, make a conscious choice to disengage with these beliefs.
4. Forgive yourself if you find this difficult.
The fact is if you want to, you can. It’s when you don’t allow yourself to wish, dream or desire that you hold yourself back. Don’t let your beliefs get the best of you. AnyONE can do anyTHING. Allow yourself to open your mind, bridge the gap between where you are now and where you want to be. See the world for what it is, a place of opportunity, rather than letting yourself be shadowed by your fears.
Life is about choice. Take control of it. Make the choice to clear out your ‘mind-closet’!
The self-limiting beliefs of last year are still not getting us anywhere. In fact, they simply hinder our progress and encumber our development.
If spring is about moving forward, I wonder, why don’t we embrace the leap?
This is when reality sets in and our self-limiting beliefs return to inhibit us. We find ourselves as inactive as before, with a fading memory of how spring had momentarily inspired us.
Take a moment to think and ask yourself these questions.
What beliefs about myself or the world do I carry with me? Then ask yourself, are these beliefs having a positive influence in my life?
If yes, keep them up. In fact, encourage and nourish them.
If no, DITCH them.
For those of you interested in digging deeper into the archives of the mind-closet, I would like to share a story with you.
When I finally thought concepts like the glass ceiling had been broken, a friend shared with me the other day that although she would be making a lot of money in a few years, she would never be able to make as much money as a man in her same position. And I thought to myself, “She could never make as much money? But, girls can do anything!”
If I ever believed myself incapable of doing something, I would not be where I am today.
We all have our doubts, our insecurities and our self-limiting beliefs – so this spring start UNPACKING, and allow yourself to lead a lighter life. Look within yourself and recognize that the voice in your head, the monkey on your shoulder and the gremlin lurking in the shadows are only there because YOU allow them to be.
So what am I asking you to do?
1. Be honest with yourself.
2. Allow yourself to acknowledge and experience those inhibiting thoughts and beliefs.
3. Then, make a conscious choice to disengage with these beliefs.
4. Forgive yourself if you find this difficult.
The fact is if you want to, you can. It’s when you don’t allow yourself to wish, dream or desire that you hold yourself back. Don’t let your beliefs get the best of you. AnyONE can do anyTHING. Allow yourself to open your mind, bridge the gap between where you are now and where you want to be. See the world for what it is, a place of opportunity, rather than letting yourself be shadowed by your fears.
Life is about choice. Take control of it. Make the choice to clear out your ‘mind-closet’!
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